Proverbs 22:6 (ESV): “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old, he will not depart from it.”
Being united in parenting is crucial for maintaining a harmonious household and ensuring effective discipline. When parents present a united front, it provides stability, consistency, and a sense of security for children. Let’s delve deeper into why being on the same page matters and how to achieve it:
- Consistency and Predictability:
- Children thrive on consistency. When parents are aligned in their approach to discipline, children know what to expect. They understand the boundaries and consequences.
- Inconsistent parenting can confuse children. For instance, if one parent allows a behavior while the other doesn’t, it creates uncertainty and may lead to behavioral issues.
- Avoiding Manipulation:
- Children are astute observers. If they notice that one parent is more lenient or that there’s a disagreement between parents, they might exploit the situation.
- Manipulation can occur when children play one parent against the other. They might seek permission from the more permissive parent or use disagreements to their advantage.
- Strengthening the Parent-Child Bond:
- When parents are aligned, they reinforce their bond with the child. The child feels secure knowing that both parents are working together.
- A united front through Christ Jesus fosters trust. Children learn that their parents are a team, and they can rely on them for guidance and support.
- Effective Communication:
- Regular communication between parents is essential. Discuss parenting strategies, rules, and consequences.
- If you disagree, find a compromise. Understand each other’s perspectives and find common ground. Remember that you’re both working toward the same goal: raising well-adjusted children who love God.
- Agree on Core Principles:
- Identify your core parenting principles. What core biblical values do you want to instill in your children? What behaviors are non-negotiable?
- Whether it’s respect, responsibility, or empathy, agree on these fundamental principles. It will guide your parenting decisions. Always use the word of God as your parenting manual. You can never go wrong when you raise your children by the standards of God’s word.
- Private Discussions:
- If you disagree on a parenting issue, avoid discussing it in front of the children. Wait until you’re alone to address it. Take it to God in prayer.
- Present a united front during interactions with the children. Even if you disagree, maintain a consistent approach.
- Seeking counsel and advice from other godly parents or spiritual mentors is a wise practice. Proverbs 15:22 (ESV):“Without counsel plans fail, but with many advisers they succeed.” Remember that seeking counsel doesn’t imply weakness; rather, it demonstrates humility and a desire to make informed and godly decisions as a parent. If you’re facing important parenting issues, consider seeking advice from trusted friends, family, or spiritual mentors in the church. Their insights can provide valuable perspectives and help guide your path as you strive to bring up your children in the fear of the Lord.
- Support Each Other Publicly:
- When one parent makes a decision, the other should support it—even if they privately disagree.
- Avoid undermining each other in front of the children. If you have concerns, discuss them privately later.
Remember that parenting is a journey, and disagreements will arise but settle differences in love as directed by God’s word. However, being united with your spouse by the power of the Holy-Spirit and respectful toward each other ensures a healthier environment for your children. Let the word of God be the main and central focus on how you parent your children.
Altar call: For anyone reading this article who is not saved and wants to be part of the family of God or you want to re-dedicate your life back to Jesus, please repeat this out loud. “Lord Jesus, I acknowledge that I have sinned against you. Lord Jesus forgive me of my sins. I repent of my sins. Lord Jesus come into my life and be my Lord now and forever in Jesus Name
Prayer: Father please help me to raise my children by the standards of Your word in Jesus Name.
