Inquiry: As a mother who loves Jesus, I know people talk about work burnout, but I am facing home burnout. I have to take care of 4 children. My husband is a good man, but he hardly helps at home. I am doing most of the things like keeping the house clean, cooking, and helping with the children’s homework, plus working part-time to help supplement our family income
Answer: Feeling overwhelmed as a mother and caregiver is valid, and it’s important to address “home burnout” while anchoring yourself in biblical principles. God sees and values your efforts, and His Word provides guidance for renewal, rest, and balance.
1. Take Your Burdens to God
Start by bringing your exhaustion and burdens to God in prayer. He cares deeply for you and invites you to find rest in Him.
Matthew 11:28-30:
“Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”
This scripture reminds you that Jesus wants to share your load. Spend time in prayer, pouring out your heart, and trust Him for strength and peace.
2. Learn to Delegate and Seek Help
While your husband may be a good man, he may need gentle reminders about sharing responsibilities at home. Communication is key.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-10:
“Two are better than one because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, one will lift up his companion.”
Share your feelings with your husband lovingly and involve him in household tasks. Let him know how his support can strengthen your partnership. Men respond better when you honour them, so please don’t be rude to him or disrespect him.
Also, teach your children small responsibilities appropriate to their ages. Training them to contribute to house chores will lighten your load and instil life skills in them.
Proverbs 22:6:
“Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.”
3. Prioritise and Set Realistic Expectations
You don’t have to do everything perfectly. Focus on what truly matters and give yourself grace and peace for what remains undone.
Luke 10:41-42:
“And Jesus answered and said to her, ‘Martha, Martha, you are worried and troubled about many things. But one thing is needed, and Mary has chosen that good part, which will not be taken away from her.’”
Like Martha, it’s easy to get caught up in the busyness of life. But Jesus reminds us to focus on Him and what’s eternal. Let some tasks wait and prioritize quality time with your family and the Lord.
4. Make Time for Rest and Refreshment
God designed rest as part of His rhythm for creation. Rest is not a luxury—it’s a necessity for your well-being.
Exodus 20:8-10:
“Remember the Sabbath day, to keep it holy. Six days you shall labor and do all your work, but the seventh day is the Sabbath of the Lord your God.”
While you may not have a full day to rest, carve out moments to recharge physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Even a short break to read the Bible or enjoy quiet time can be renewing.
Make time to do something you enjoy, such as going to the gym, bird watching, or reading Christian novels.
5. Lean on Your Community
The body of Christ exists to support one another. Don’t hesitate to seek help from friends, family, or your church community.
Galatians 6:2:
“Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.”
You don’t have to do it all alone. Ask for help, whether it’s babysitting, meal preparation, or simply sharing your struggles with someone who can pray with you.
6. Remember Your Worth in Christ
It’s easy to feel invisible or undervalued when the weight of responsibility feels heavy. Remember that your work, whether seen or unseen, matters deeply to God.
1 Corinthians 15:58:
“Therefore, my beloved brethren, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that your labor is not in vain in the Lord.”
People may not notice your great efforts in life but be certain that God sees every sacrifice, every sleepless night, and every small act of love.
Rest in the assurance that He honours your faithfulness.
7. Renew Your Mind Daily
Combat burnout by refocusing your thoughts on God’s promises.
Romans 12:2:
“And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.”
Fill your mind with God’s Word and promises daily to counteract feelings of frustration and exhaustion. Meditate daily on verses that bring peace and encouragement.
Practical Steps
- Daily Prayer and Devotion: Begin your day with God, even if just for a few moments, to anchor yourself in His strength.
- Simplify Tasks: Use meal planning, schedules, or other tools to reduce stress.
- Open Communication: Regularly talk with your husband about how you can work together as a team.
- Self-Care: Take time to do something you enjoy—a walk, reading, or a quiet cup of tea.
Prayer for anyone feeling the sting of being burnt-out at home:
“Father in heaven, I come to You weary and burdened. Thank You for seeing me, loving me, and walking with me through every challenge. Please give me strength, wisdom, and patience as I care for my family. Help me to prioritise what matters most and lean on Your grace. Teach me to rest in You and trust that You will sustain me. Thank You for being my refuge and strength. In Jesus’ name, Amen.”
God is with you, equipping you and offering His grace every step of the way. You are not alone. I love you but God loves you even more. Always remember that.
Altar call: For anyone reading this article who is not saved and wants to be part of the family of God or you want to re-dedicate your life back to Jesus, please repeat this out loud. “Lord Jesus, I acknowledge that I have sinned against you. Lord Jesus forgive me of my sins. I repent of my sins. Lord Jesus come into my life and be my Lord now and forever in Jesus Name
About The Author
Mrs Edore Sambo is a Deaconess in the RCCG and also a UK qualified coach (accredited with ILM and EMCC-UK member)
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